Professional golfers who must focus their skill over 4 days usually find that process thinking helps them stay in the moment under pressure and is more relaxing (controllable). Gymnasts report similar experiences. Their “result” then tends to be more personally positive or successful. Bosses or managers that focus intensely on “results” only (the end justifies the mean, pun intended) often create significant stress in their employees. Same for parents with school performance or child-sport issues. How about its affect on a marriage? Short term success in productivity is sometimes shown under these circumstances but turnover rates, stress, conflicts, and threats to one’s esteem can be high prices to pay.
“Can you do it”: Yes or No
“Let’s talk about ‘HOW’ to solve this problem or accomplish this task”